What’s Happening to Me? A helpful resource for grown-ass women

Sep 11, 2018


Maybe I’m dating myself here,

but I have a distinct memory of a book that unearthed itself in my tween years.

It was called “What’s Happening to Me?” 

and, of course, it was all about puberty.


In my work with women over the past few years, I’ve noticed that their experiences of the biggest changes in their lives – the changes that cause them to really stop and think about who they are, what matters most, and what they want for their lives – often follow a really similar pattern.  


I’ve been playing with these ideas for quite some time, asking a lot of questions, and doing a lot of research

and I wanted to share what I’ve found with you.


My hope is that you might see yourself in this description, and maybe feel a little bit more grounded.  A little more normal, perhaps, for what it’s worth.  Perhaps a little more self-aware, self-compassionate, or ready, in some way, for what’s next.

You know, kind of like “What’s Happening to Me,” but for grown-ass women…

The Becoming Podcast has been on a short hiatus while I focus on writing my book, but oh what a comeback episode I have for you!

This month, I spoke to Toko-pa Turner, who many of you may know as the unofficial patron saint of many of my circles and gatherings because of the sheer number of times I’ve quoted from the wisdom of her book, Belonging.

Toko-pa is a Canadian author, teacher, and dreamworker. Blending the mystical teachings of Sufism in which she was raised with a Jungian approach to dreams, she founded The Dream School in 2001, from which thousands of students have graduated. She is the author of the award-winning book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, which explores the themes of exile and belonging through the lens of dreams, mythology, and nature. This book has resonated for readers worldwide, and has been translated into 10 different languages so far. Her work focuses on the relationship between psyche and nature, and how to follow our inner wisdom to meet with the social, psychological, and ecological challenges of our time.

Here’s some of what Toko-pa and I talk about in this episode:

> The dream that changed Toko-pa’s life, causing her to question her career and, ultimately, her identity

> How we can court our dreams to support us during times of radical transformation – and the reasons so many of us have a hard time remembering and working with what shows up in our dreamscape

> Toko-pa’s perspective on the message of Belonging after the divisiveness our society has experienced in the years since it was published

> What happened for both Toko-pa and I when we fell out of belonging from the ideologies of the “wellness world”

> How to build community when you’re under-resourced

> “The Big Lie” when it comes to belonging, and how we can reclaim a sense of belonging to the greater family of things, as Mary Oliver so famously wrote

Listen to the episode on iTunes


Show Notes

Toko-pa’s Website

Belonging:  Remembering Ourselves Home, Toko-pa’s book

The David Abram video about animism mentioned in the interview

Toko-pa’s self-guided program, Dream Drops

Companion, the program that accompanies Belonging


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