What would happen if you stopped believing….

Nov 27, 2018


To follow up on last week’s post, I offer you this….


What would happen if you stopped believing


All your stories of not-enough





not enough




– even –

Not enough self-care.  Not enough self-compassion.  Not enough positivity.


What if you stopped believing all your stories about


how perfect

or imperfect


and everything



And what if you stopped believing all the stories that tell you


that you would be more

if only you would do more

and that more is something you actually desire.


What if you stopped believing the stories that have you convinced that you are


broken in any way

– pathologized –

because of your sadness, because of your indecision, because of your joy, because of your flesh or your heart and all the other things

that might not actually be a problem at all.


What if

by abandoning those stories

– a smoking pile of untruths in your wake

you could belong more fully to yourself

and belong yourself more fully to the rest of us wild and flawed citizens of the world

we who are stepping into the tentative freedom

of singing our rebel songs

and writing our own stories

– the poetry of our wild and flawed lives

a lighthouse

for the tidal wave of a humanity

finally waking up to itself.

The Becoming Podcast has been on a short hiatus while I focus on writing my book, but oh what a comeback episode I have for you!

This month, I spoke to Toko-pa Turner, who many of you may know as the unofficial patron saint of many of my circles and gatherings because of the sheer number of times I’ve quoted from the wisdom of her book, Belonging.

Toko-pa is a Canadian author, teacher, and dreamworker. Blending the mystical teachings of Sufism in which she was raised with a Jungian approach to dreams, she founded The Dream School in 2001, from which thousands of students have graduated. She is the author of the award-winning book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, which explores the themes of exile and belonging through the lens of dreams, mythology, and nature. This book has resonated for readers worldwide, and has been translated into 10 different languages so far. Her work focuses on the relationship between psyche and nature, and how to follow our inner wisdom to meet with the social, psychological, and ecological challenges of our time.

Here’s some of what Toko-pa and I talk about in this episode:

> The dream that changed Toko-pa’s life, causing her to question her career and, ultimately, her identity

> How we can court our dreams to support us during times of radical transformation – and the reasons so many of us have a hard time remembering and working with what shows up in our dreamscape

> Toko-pa’s perspective on the message of Belonging after the divisiveness our society has experienced in the years since it was published

> What happened for both Toko-pa and I when we fell out of belonging from the ideologies of the “wellness world”

> How to build community when you’re under-resourced

> “The Big Lie” when it comes to belonging, and how we can reclaim a sense of belonging to the greater family of things, as Mary Oliver so famously wrote

Listen to the episode on iTunes


Show Notes

Toko-pa’s Website

Belonging:  Remembering Ourselves Home, Toko-pa’s book

The David Abram video about animism mentioned in the interview

Toko-pa’s self-guided program, Dream Drops

Companion, the program that accompanies Belonging


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