Walking Home

Nov 28, 2017

Some of us are trying to remember

how we like our eggs


and the kind of music we used to love to dance to

and the clothes we liked to wear before our closets filled with Slacks and Sensible Shoes.

And sometimes, in the midst of all those runny yolks and Ani Difranco riffs and bangles

we find Her.


Others of us are making sense of who we are

when we aren’t what we do


what we accomplish

when we aren’t the fulfillment of our next goal.

And sometimes, we find a way to look in the mirror and see a woman unadorned with the ornaments of striving

and in seeing Her

we coax her out from where she’s been hiding

holding her joy tightly in her arms

and waiting for us to come and find her.


Some of us are leading with our hearts


blazing along our path

and need, every so often,

to fall softly into a sister’s arms and touch courage

the strength that’s needed to


the kind of woman

who knows how she likes her eggs

dances anyway

(shaking her bangles)

forges a new way of being in the world

and in doing so, forges a new world altogether.


We’re all, in one way or another, looking for

a home within ourselves.

and at the same time

we’re all just walking each other home.**



**quote by Ram Dass.

The Becoming Podcast has been on a short hiatus while I focus on writing my book, but oh what a comeback episode I have for you!

This month, I spoke to Toko-pa Turner, who many of you may know as the unofficial patron saint of many of my circles and gatherings because of the sheer number of times I’ve quoted from the wisdom of her book, Belonging.

Toko-pa is a Canadian author, teacher, and dreamworker. Blending the mystical teachings of Sufism in which she was raised with a Jungian approach to dreams, she founded The Dream School in 2001, from which thousands of students have graduated. She is the author of the award-winning book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, which explores the themes of exile and belonging through the lens of dreams, mythology, and nature. This book has resonated for readers worldwide, and has been translated into 10 different languages so far. Her work focuses on the relationship between psyche and nature, and how to follow our inner wisdom to meet with the social, psychological, and ecological challenges of our time.

Here’s some of what Toko-pa and I talk about in this episode:

> The dream that changed Toko-pa’s life, causing her to question her career and, ultimately, her identity

> How we can court our dreams to support us during times of radical transformation – and the reasons so many of us have a hard time remembering and working with what shows up in our dreamscape

> Toko-pa’s perspective on the message of Belonging after the divisiveness our society has experienced in the years since it was published

> What happened for both Toko-pa and I when we fell out of belonging from the ideologies of the “wellness world”

> How to build community when you’re under-resourced

> “The Big Lie” when it comes to belonging, and how we can reclaim a sense of belonging to the greater family of things, as Mary Oliver so famously wrote

Listen to the episode on iTunes


Show Notes

Toko-pa’s Website

Belonging:  Remembering Ourselves Home, Toko-pa’s book

The David Abram video about animism mentioned in the interview

Toko-pa’s self-guided program, Dream Drops

Companion, the program that accompanies Belonging


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