The Becoming Podcast – Season 5; Episode 3: Day Schildkret on how to create rituals that honour times of loss, celebration and change

Mar 28, 2023

Welcome to the third episode of the 2023 season of the Becoming Podcast!

On this month’s show, I had the great pleasure of having a conversation with Day Schildkret.  I was first introduced to Day’s work many years ago when a friend recommended I check out his book, Morning Altars.  Now, Day has written Hello Goodbye, a “recipe book” of rituals, that shares wisdom about how we can more meaningfully honour the hellos, goodbyes and other transitions in our lives.

Before I share more about what we talked about, let me tell you a bit about Day:

Day Schildkret is an award-winning queer author, artist, ritualist, teacher and is internationally known for Morning Altars, which BuzzFeed calls, “a celebration of nature and life.”  With nearly 100k followers on social media, Day has worked for close to two decades with thousands of individuals, communities and organizations to help heal the culture through a meaningful and creative response to marking personal and collective change.

Day is the author of Hello, Goodbye: 75 Rituals for Times of Loss, Celebration and Change which hit Amazon’s #1 book in three categories, as well as, Morning Altars: A 7-Step Practice to Nourish Your Spirit through Nature, Art and Ritual

Here’s some of what Day and I talked about in this episode:


> Two massive catalyzing moments that Day experienced in one year, and the choice we have to make meaning of the threshold moments in our lives – or not.

> The key components that need to be a part of every ritual in order for it to be successful.

> The intangible, magical qualities of ritual and how we in our culture are inclined to “assassinate mystery with answers,” rather than allowing the mystery of ritual to unfold.

> The importance of having our rituals witnessed, and how to choose good witnesses.


And those are just the highlights!  I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed recording it!

Listen to the episode on iTunes



Show Notes



Day’s Website


Day’s Instagram


Day’s new book, Hello Goodbye:  75 Rituals for Times of Loss, Celebration and Change


Priya Parker’s book The Art of Gathering


Beth Berry – Revolution from Home


Morning Altars Practitioner and Teacher Training



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