Rebel Warrior Poet

Feb 27, 2018


I was driving home the other night, lost in thought as my headlights lit the way through the darkness.  My creative juices were flowing, thanks to some amazing bodywork and a coaching call with my mentor.

Also my friend, and the woman who helped me bring my babies into the world, my mentor, Katharina, is an archetype consultant, trained by the famed Caroline Myss herself.

You’ve heard me talk about archetypes here before – especially about the archetypical masculine and feminine traits that we all express, and how being in rest and creativity and connected to the earth are parts of the feminine that myself and so many others are trying to reclaim.

This night we talked about the many other archetypes – which are, in short, patterns of behaviour we all express – that are a part of me and how I operate in the world.

If you know me, you won’t be surprised to hear that the poet, the rebel, and the warrior are all archetypes that play a strong role in my life.


As I was winding down the rural road toward my tiny oceanside home, I had an aha moment.


My rebel and warrior archetypes simply love to recruit my poet to do their bidding.

If I’m losing you in archetype talk here, what I mean is that I often use my words to express my more rebellious beliefs, or the ones for which I am standing firm, a warrior.  The written word has always been my way of exploring and expressing how I feel about the world around me.  The fact that I have the poet archetype, specifically (as opposed to the author, or the writer, for example), means that I am able to share these thoughts, I believe, in a way that is softer, that shines a light on a new way of thinking, that is persuasive, yet also holds a sense of reverence and beauty.


I glanced up at the moon and laughed out loud at the amusing yet deliciously enticing thought that popped into my head next.


If my rebel and my warrior are using my poet to express themselves, then I should be dismantling the patriarchy, one haiku at a time.


I’ve never really written haikus, but I found the idea amusing:  a play on the absurdity of the idea of dismantling the patriarchy with poetry (although maybe not so absurd?), as well as some of the absurdities of the patriarchy itself.  


And so, a little creative project was born.


As the weeks have passed, I’ve found that my silly-yet-incredibly-enticing project was just what I needed:  something bite-sized, that engaged my left brain a little as I counted syllables (a haiku has 5 syllables in the first line, 7 in the second, and 5 in the third).  I’ve found myself thinking in haikus as I put my son down for his nap or drove my daughter to school.  It’s been really fun.

I decided to be a bit high-tech about the whole thing, and I downloaded a haiku-writing app to make it easy to jot down my poems, and when I did so, a new idea was born:  this app is a social haiku writing app, as are many out there, I learned, and I thought – why do this alone?

So I want to invite you to engage your creative wild feminine, and write a #haikuagainstthepatriarchy.  Use the hashtag and upload a photo of your haiku on Instagram (like the photo in this blog post) and maybe we really can dismantle the patriarchy with poetry.

Wanna help me try?

The Becoming Podcast has been on a short hiatus while I focus on writing my book, but oh what a comeback episode I have for you!

This month, I spoke to Toko-pa Turner, who many of you may know as the unofficial patron saint of many of my circles and gatherings because of the sheer number of times I’ve quoted from the wisdom of her book, Belonging.

Toko-pa is a Canadian author, teacher, and dreamworker. Blending the mystical teachings of Sufism in which she was raised with a Jungian approach to dreams, she founded The Dream School in 2001, from which thousands of students have graduated. She is the author of the award-winning book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, which explores the themes of exile and belonging through the lens of dreams, mythology, and nature. This book has resonated for readers worldwide, and has been translated into 10 different languages so far. Her work focuses on the relationship between psyche and nature, and how to follow our inner wisdom to meet with the social, psychological, and ecological challenges of our time.

Here’s some of what Toko-pa and I talk about in this episode:

> The dream that changed Toko-pa’s life, causing her to question her career and, ultimately, her identity

> How we can court our dreams to support us during times of radical transformation – and the reasons so many of us have a hard time remembering and working with what shows up in our dreamscape

> Toko-pa’s perspective on the message of Belonging after the divisiveness our society has experienced in the years since it was published

> What happened for both Toko-pa and I when we fell out of belonging from the ideologies of the “wellness world”

> How to build community when you’re under-resourced

> “The Big Lie” when it comes to belonging, and how we can reclaim a sense of belonging to the greater family of things, as Mary Oliver so famously wrote

Listen to the episode on iTunes


Show Notes

Toko-pa’s Website

Belonging:  Remembering Ourselves Home, Toko-pa’s book

The David Abram video about animism mentioned in the interview

Toko-pa’s self-guided program, Dream Drops

Companion, the program that accompanies Belonging


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