How to Get in Touch with your Inner Wild Woman

Aug 9, 2016

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This might be the best part of my work.


Watching women get in touch with the wild woman within them, that is.


Whether they’re birthing a baby or reconnecting with their authentic selves after years of seeking external validation,

Seeing a woman find her wild

will never get old.

What does it mean to find your inner wild woman, you ask?


Well, here’s that I think:


It’s about moving to the music,

twirling from your heart, carefree.

It’s chocolate, warm shawls, bare feet and wildflowers.

It’s about connecting with your sisters,

reaching out before they even know how to ask for help.

It’s about noticing the moon.

Running your hands over the curve of your stomach and the flesh of your thighs

with more gratitude than remorse.

It’s saying what you need to say, what you want to say

speaking your truth

and allowing others to think that they want

while remaining unruffled.

At least most of the time.

It’s striking warrior pose in the woods by yourself

and also knowing when to seek earth.

It’s being kind to yourself.



It is quiet confidence, the broadness of your shoulders and the way a baby fits so perfectly into the groove of your hip.

It’s knowing what you need, what you want,

And asking for it.

It’s a deep relationship with your own beauty, truth and wisdom.

It’s believing in intuition

(yours especially)

(and maybe even magic).

It is wild, indeed, honouring that which is innate, instinctual, and animal about you.

And getting outside often enough to remember it.

It is knowing the legacy of your foresisters, and teaching the girls who will come after you.

It’s knowing that there is actually no “how” to getting in touch with your wild woman.

She is there, in you already, innately.  Asking for your attention, quietly waiting for your stillness,

so that she can be heard.

The Becoming Podcast has been on a short hiatus while I focus on writing my book, but oh what a comeback episode I have for you!

This month, I spoke to Toko-pa Turner, who many of you may know as the unofficial patron saint of many of my circles and gatherings because of the sheer number of times I’ve quoted from the wisdom of her book, Belonging.

Toko-pa is a Canadian author, teacher, and dreamworker. Blending the mystical teachings of Sufism in which she was raised with a Jungian approach to dreams, she founded The Dream School in 2001, from which thousands of students have graduated. She is the author of the award-winning book, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home, which explores the themes of exile and belonging through the lens of dreams, mythology, and nature. This book has resonated for readers worldwide, and has been translated into 10 different languages so far. Her work focuses on the relationship between psyche and nature, and how to follow our inner wisdom to meet with the social, psychological, and ecological challenges of our time.

Here’s some of what Toko-pa and I talk about in this episode:

> The dream that changed Toko-pa’s life, causing her to question her career and, ultimately, her identity

> How we can court our dreams to support us during times of radical transformation – and the reasons so many of us have a hard time remembering and working with what shows up in our dreamscape

> Toko-pa’s perspective on the message of Belonging after the divisiveness our society has experienced in the years since it was published

> What happened for both Toko-pa and I when we fell out of belonging from the ideologies of the “wellness world”

> How to build community when you’re under-resourced

> “The Big Lie” when it comes to belonging, and how we can reclaim a sense of belonging to the greater family of things, as Mary Oliver so famously wrote

Listen to the episode on iTunes


Show Notes

Toko-pa’s Website

Belonging:  Remembering Ourselves Home, Toko-pa’s book

The David Abram video about animism mentioned in the interview

Toko-pa’s self-guided program, Dream Drops

Companion, the program that accompanies Belonging


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