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Nov 29, 2016

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A few weeks ago, I did a survey asking you, my adored readers and followers, a few questions.


One of these questions asked about the current state of affairs in your life, and the second question asked 

“if you could wave a magic wand and be on the ‘other side’ of the transformation you are seeking or going through, what would life look like for the new you?”

Your responses were so familiar to me.  They echoed with a truth I’ve known all too well, and resonated with the stories I hear from the women I work with every day.

If only you could see the words – the actual words – that each individual woman used to describe her life and what she wanted for it.

Because there were only a few words, really.  Repeated over and over and over again.









And on the other side?










The survey asked another question too.

And I debated asking it, I have to say.

Because it felt a little bit taboo.  Maybe a little nosy.

But my curiosity got the best of me.  And so I asked:

“In the last 6 months, what has been your most important investment in terms of your well-being and personal development?  Was it easy to make the decision to make this investment?  What hesitations do you have about investing in yourself in this way?” 

And once again, the responses consisted of only a few words, really.  Repeated over and over and over again.

“I can’t justify it.”

“I feel guilty spending money on myself.”

“The kids’ needs come first.”

“I don’t invest money in myself.”

You can imagine this had me feeling a bit like I was in the wrong line of business.  My coaching work with women is reliant on a decision, often long before I come into the picture, to invest in oneself.

It is reliant on a decision that life is not meant to be lived feeling busy, chaotic, scattered, overwhelmed, unsettled, uncertain, grounded, and stressed.

A decision that moreso than a pedicure or a bubble bath, the antidote to these feelings was


diving in

asking why

trying something different

feeling supported 

wanting more

seeking alignment

finding yourself

This process, and those feelings of balance, focus, bravery, confidence, calm, peace and clarity, are my enduring desire for the women I coach with.


And though I know more than anyone that the decision to invest in oneself is complex and challenging, and often very little about money and more about one’s sense of worthiness

I do know that that decision to actively engage in the transformation of your life comes with a jolt of






that feels like an electric current of possibility running through your entire body.