Alignment and the Art of Saying No

Aug 30, 2016

How to Say No |

Going through your Third-LIfe Alignment requires a woman to become exquisitely good at saying no.


No to the things, people, and activities that don’t feel good anymore.

No to the trappings of a life that isn’t yours.

No to anything – anything – that simply isn’t working for you and serving your ability to live in alignment with your values, your desires and your potential.

Here are a few ways to say no, when the word no itself might not feel right.


  1. That’s not for me, thanks.
  2. I’d rather not.
  3. Thanks, but not right now.
  4. I don’t think I’m the best person to ask.  Have you tried….?
  5. This is not a good time for me / my family.
  6. I’ve been working on doing some reprioritizing, and I’ve decided to stop….
  7. I’d love to help, but perhaps in a lesser capacity.  Is there something else I could do?
  8. That doesn’t really feel like “me.”
  9. I think I’ll pass.
  10. I don’t think I’d be able to give that my best effort; I wouldn’t feel good about saying yes to that right now.
  11. I’m going to focus my energy elsewhere, thanks.
  12. I’m really trying to simplify my life right now, and so I’ve decided not to add anything else to my schedule / life / plate at this time.
  13. That sounds amazing, but I’m not going to be able to.
  14. I wish I could.
  15. I’ve got a lot on the go right now; anything more would be too much for me.
  16. I’m learning how to say no to some things in my life.  I’m going to practice that right now…no!
  17. No, thank you.
  18. That sounds like it might be a right fit for (so and so).
  19. Wow, what a great opportunity / idea / question.  I wonder who you could get to join you / help you out / do that?
  20. Nope.  Naw.  No.

Your turn!

Do you ever have a hard time saying no?

What are some ways to say no that have worked for you?