The Becoming Podcast – Season 7; Episode 3: Enfys J. Book on queer rites of passage + honouring your milestones with pride

The Becoming Podcast with Enfys J. Book

Welcome all!

I’m really excited to introduce you to Enfys J. Book on the Becoming podcast today.  I came across Enfys’ new book Queer Rites:  A Magickal Grimoire to Honor Your Milestones with Pride in a random search for other folks who were just as nerdy about rites of passage as I am.  I really loved getting to know them and the conversation we had was just so rich.

 

Before we dive into today’s episode, let me properly introduce you to Enfys!

Enfys J. Book (they/them) is ​​the author of the Gold COVR award-winning Queer Qabala, co-author (with Ivo Dominguez, Jr.) of Sagittarius Witch, and author of Queer Rites: A Magickal Grimoire to Honor Your Milestones with Pride (Llewellyn, 2025). They are the High Priest of the Fellowship of the Ancient White Stag coven near Washington, D.C. Enfys has taught classes on magickal practice around the world. They are also the creator of majorarqueerna.com, a website devoted to queer magickal practice, and host a podcast called “4 Quick Q’s: Book Talk with Enfys,” where they interview pagan authors using questions determined by a roll of the dice.

 

In this episode, Enfys and I touch on:

> The lack of rites of passage for queer folk, and how deeply gendered so many of our “traditional” rites of passage are

> How rites of passage are like “anchors to the self.”  I love the way Enfys described this

> The name change ritual that inspired Enfys to write Queer Rites

> The pros and cons of labeling our identities, and how we can get more comfortable with the ways in which our identities evolve and change as we do

> What makes a ritual “work” and be effective

> How queer rites of passage are an act of resistance

 

Listen to this episode on iTunes

 

Show Notes

Enfys’ website

Connect with Enfys on Mastadon

Enfys’ book, Queer Rites: A Magickal Grimoire to Honor Your Milestones with Pride

Enfys’ book Sagittarius Witch, as discussed in our interview

The Becoming Podcast episode with Carmen Spagnola on the agency to be found in ritual in collapse times

The Morrigan:  Celtic Goddess of Magic and Might by Courtney Weber

 

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